Quotes

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Art is never a futile way to give. Art speaks and speaking moves and moving changes people and the world.

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Passion hurts sometimes more than we can bare. If we could live without passion maybe we would know some kind of peace but we would be hollow, empty rooms shuttered and dank. Without passion we'd be truly dead.

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I think in fact that is perhaps the hardest thing any of us can do when we are clever enough to understand how stupid we are (yet be unable to change it).

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I don't think then paint, I paint then discover the picture, pick it out, bring it to life, then seek to understand what it means to me.

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I always said I was not an expert, just a Social Philosopher. I didn't feel I had the answers but felt I was good at posing questions and questions make people seek answers in directions that experts would never have looked.

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I follow no church, just my heart and empathy. In this sense I do not pray but hope and wish. I hope and wish for people to find how to be silly and to laugh and learn to be, each in their own right without waiting for permission or fixating on whether or not the other person has yet found the want or ability to join them. Because then you become the model of all it is to seize life. You can't control or force another person to do this but by enjoying your own "joie de vivre" you can inspire someone to wish they had it and ultimately that leads them to the greatest gift of all... the desire to chase life.

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We curse those who broke our hearts till we are older and realise they had taught us we had one.

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I always felt I was an 'aquired taste'... like olives and anchovies...everyone claims to love em but few people actually really naturally go for them and it often takes time for it to dawn on them that they've acquired that taste for it seems such a strange thing to have a taste for.

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Donna: I don't want to be 'special good' or 'special bad'
Bryn: I hate to tell you this Donna, but you blew it in a big way.
from Somebody Somewhere.

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Put it this way, I'm a culture looking for a place to happen. (from Somebody Somewhere.)

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I have touched the heaven of 'shared social'. I know what it is to be 'with'! (to Bernard Rimland on finally experiencing a simultaneous sense of self and other)

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I forgive them their world. (Donna Williams, Indianapolis Conference opening, 1994)

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Eccentricity isn't contagious; what a shame. (Donna's tee-shirt slogan.)

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We'd agreed. If I died, he'd replace me with a dog. (Donna Williams from Like Color To The Blind)

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I was buzzing on a pink street light. (to Peter Gzowski on Morningside refering to the 'Nirvana' experience of merging with the experience of a pink street light)

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Here, the conscious mind and language is like this walnut, and here, the preconscious mind is like this napkin. You have to take this whole napkin and pull it through that nut. (to Mary Kay Blakely, journalist and friend)

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I must have smudged me. I went 'deeee' in the hair (to Chris explaining that when I'd rubbed against him my hairclip had come off in his hair)

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The best person to be around is a person who has stopped idealizing and become comfortable in their own skin whilst simultaneously reaching their greatest potential and taking time to 'smell the roses'.

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I don't hand hold but I'm a good lantern (Donna Williams on mentoring)

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Sometimes the only way one can live beyond tragedy is find a use for it in life's compost for compost brings richer, stronger life to those living things enriched by it.

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Being happy in yourself is not that hard... sometimes all it takes is catching yourself practicing self pity, resentment and fear and committing yourself to stopping the habit in its tracks at every turn. Then happiness generally ends up slowly filling the gaps :-)

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The best way to make people happy or feel good is not to grease up or seek to impress or say 'me too' but to BE HAPPY IN YOURSELF and FEEL GOOD IN YOURSELF because this makes any of us attractive to others... people feel the sunshine, they're drawn to it... so stop working on pleasing people and work on becoming the person YOU will feel safe with, you will like, you enjoy the company of, and you'll ultimately attract healthier people toward you.

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If you find you are alone because you have chosen to avoid what feels unhealthy, then stand in the dark at night under the stars with the wind blowing and the leaves of trees rustling and be kissed by falling rain and you may know you are clearly not as alone as you imagine.

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Stand back some time and ponder what IS real under all this cladding, all these constructed 'realities', 'normalities'... there is stuff that's real, tangible, but wow, haven't we clad it, hidden it under a gazillion forms, protocols, processes... maybe that's why we laugh when we fart... suddenly we ARE real... just animals, silly, confused, overindulged human animals.

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I don't need to join the circus, my body IS the juggling act, we take turns in being the circus master

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We should spend our time knowing others and through this ultimately we end up remembered. But if we strive only to be known, we get remembered only as a narcissist

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Fun is life's icing, we should seek to put it on top of everything

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If my cancer came back, even that is part of my luck... to know what it is to be so complete as a soul partly because my body doesn't allow me the vanity of thinking of it as me...to see in my husband the love he has for my spirit regardless of the challenges of my body... this is a blessing greater than most will ever know.

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Why should I cry for not being an apple, when I was born an orange, I'd be crying for an illusion, I may as well cry for not being a horse

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Do not be someone's body for them... instead become their facilitator, and from there their witness

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We each only live 70-80 years, some of us maybe 60 or 50, 40 or 30... some of us don't make it to 20, some don't make it to 10 or even 5. Now that's perspective.

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ask what matters... your hairstyle? your party dress? what someone called you? what you saw on a troll blog? who likes you or doesn't this day, hour, moment.... wake up... get real... real life is actually waiting for you. So open your eyes and glory in all of its average, mundane, wonderfulness that you cast off and forgot.

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One day we’ll laugh at the phobics and obsessives who never did the maths and closed themselves into a box thinking they could control all possible mishap and were killed by a piece of falling plaster from their own ceiling.

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I'm a sculptor. If life throws me shit, I make sculptures from it.

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I could have been a very disturbed person... from learning all the things that love was not

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Finding one’s soul in the midst of chaos, loss and poverty is key to humanity. For if humanity still exists in a human toilet bowl, then one can hope to find it anywhere.

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Today’s stereotypes are tomorrow’s myths. Perhaps the best we can hope for is that we base our new stereotypes on more than a self righteous vision that any one of us represents any single perfect truth.

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The sacredness of the soul, if its strong, tells mind when it has overstayed its welcome

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Chips on my shoulder? If I find them, I’ll eat them.

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Real raw simple daggy daring is so moving. I'd rather a world of acceptance and laughter than a world of rigidity, judgement, hierarchy, competition and hate.

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Every time the intolerance of others makes me feel like a shamed dog I say in my feelings,
“Donna, if you leave like a dog with its tail between its legs, then 30 like you will follow when entering this store and if one of them stands up for themselves and it is you who follows, then you will have one less challenged day”. 

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The road to independence would teach us little if it had no bumps to remember it by.

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When it comes to an open mind, my mind is both an abyss and a sky.  I fly and fall accordingly.

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There are several things that are utterly futile and we must live in spite of them, hate, fear, shame, guilt, envy.... as for the meaning of life, I think it is 'to be', just to 'be'... there is no grand purpose but for that which unravels today, or tommorow, or 5.45.

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Some of us are naturally tumbled.  That is our together.

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Resources are like having water. You can water the weed that will strangle the garden or you can water the fruit tree that will feed a family. Where will you invest the water?

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Love is not about desire to rescue or be needed or important.  Love is to look across and feel inspired, not addicted. Love is a growing feeling, it makes us grow. It doesn't 'kill' us.

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Nobody's life is normal because there is no ONE normality.

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Be careful what tune you are playing. You are the music their body listens to.

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There’s no point saying all is rosy in the garden. If the garden’s full of dog-shit.

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I take weird as a compliment and nut as a qualification.

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If you look at the part from too way up close it can look like the whole world until you back away. Then you see that it was just a dot.

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Labels are just adjectives.  It is only how they are used which can threaten us.

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It’s funny how the thing we value most about our face is transient. It’s the smile. It’s not actually in the face. But it’s the best part.

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'Love' is some poor beast that many a devil has tried to pass itself off as; control, image, status, power, co-dependency, obsession... just to name a few.

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Sure I have my shame episodes, my world is crumbling episodes, but I then smile like a kid playing in poo and say 'oh well'.

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To tease a cat into making it chase you, you must not behave like an eager, watching, waiting dog.

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A patchwork quilt is still one quilt. (Donna on multiplicity)

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Peace is the balanced acceptance of chaos.

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I believe that goals should not be easy, nor overwhelming, but should be achievable and something we must strive to attain and retain, and this makes us challenge ourselves, through which we grow, gain a sense of achievement, expand our lives, challenge our own assumptions.

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Being humanitarian, environmentally conscious, caring about sustainability, being egalitarian has nothing to do with being leftist or socialist... it has everything to do with being an aware, empathic and caring human and not being a psychopath.

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I fight canvases armed with paint brushes loaded with paint.